“It is always easy to blame others for your situation. It’s much more productive to search your own past and find what caused your faults.” Anonymous
This past few months I was into a lot of distractions. I indulged myself to procrastination, to dreaming without actions, to habits that don’t serve me and many many more. This is the reason why I was on hiatus for the past 2 months.
And yes, it made me so frustrated seeing as it’s already half way of 2019 and I haven’t achieved much yet. I am close to being broke, my goals are scattered and I am a little bit emotionally unstable. Of course, I have no one else to blame here but MYSELF.
THESE ARE ALL ON ME. But did I realize that right away? No, I didn’t.
At first, I blamed other people of my failure. I blamed our family’s situations, my problems and unhappy memories of why I did what I did. I said, “I am stressed out. My financial situation is making me unhappy so I deserve to just enjoy my day today and watch my favorite kdramas.” Hahah. And mind you, that “one day” became my “everyday” routine for the past 2 months.
And the results? Well, Quite scary.
So what I am trying to say here is that it is always easy to blame other people of our failure than to reflect on ourselves and on the things that we need to change of. We can blame other people all we want. Blaming your parents or the government of your failure? Well, that’s easy-peasy! But hey, at the end of the day, we can’t erase the fact that our successes and our failures are entirely our own.
Build habits that serve you
- Has it ever crossed your mind that maybe the reason why you are financially struggling right now is because you spend most of your time watching your favorite dramas than reading books and equipping yourself with the knowledge that you need to succeed?
Well, don’t get me wrong. I certainly want people to also unwind. After a stressful day at work, of course you deserve to just lie down and watch your favorite movie. That is okay! I repeat, that’s okay. You deserve that. But, what I would like to point out as well is that we need to be aware of the habits that we are building for ourselves. Let’s try to ask ourselves, “Am I building habits that serve me and my goals?”
Because we need to remember that our habits or patterns of behavior can stuck us in a certain mindset. And you don’t want to be stuck in that lazy mindset where every little thing you do makes you feel dreadful and tired, right? So yes, build habits that serve you and your dreams. Be mindful of your patterns of behavior because those are on you. You build that for yourself and no one else does that for you.
In short, your success depends on you and the habits that you build for yourself. So yes, dear self, this post for you and maybe to others out there who has can also relate.
Re-ADJUST YOUR FOCUS. Put your head back into the game, into your goals, into your dreams and into HIM. Remember to don’t let those distractions rule you because building good/bad habits are on your own hands and so are your successes and failures.